V-Day PSA

And now, a mini-rant. lol

I've written a few blogs and given many a compelling internal speech encouraging the men of today's world to "man up!" 

Today, however, I'm encouraging the single women to "woman up!"  To stop being drama queens, fishing for compliments and sympathy, hating on Valentine's Day, and believing that anything you do by yourself on this day is automatically sad or pathetic.  Let's not contribute or participate in the stigmatization of single women as pitiable, crazy, unattractive, neurotic, and/or desperate.  It's toxic, and it affects how others view and treat women... and how women view and treat themselves.

This is my 33rd single Valentine's Day, and I've been a pretty consistent fan of the holiday!  I think it's cute and fun and quirky, and I think a holiday where we celebrate and feel thankful for those we love is a nice concept that shouldn't be tainted with bitterness and cynicism.

Singleness -- like dating and marriage -- can be awesome and freeing and fun sometimes; it can be sanctifying and character building sometimes; and it can be lonely and depressing sometimes.  But we can trust that God is good and He knows what is best for us.  And we can make the most of our lives and be thankful for all the good things He's given us, whatever our current relationship status!

I'm an introverty introvert, and at this stage in my life, I genuinely enjoy relaxing at home, cooking, reading, going to the movies, going to the gym, and trying new things... all on my own.  I have family and friends that I'm close to and see often, but the reality is I'm by myself more often than not, so it's a really good and healthy thing for me to enjoy my own company.  Singles should not feel ashamed or sad or less worthy because they are by themselves more often.  It's empowering to try new things on your own. And freeing to choose to open yourself up and be grateful for the LOVE of God and friends and family -- love that surrounds you and fills you and builds you up and heals you!!  It's there, and it's good, and it's worth celebrating! ❤  

You matter. Your life matters. Your heart matters.  Don't let the enemy convince you that the lack of a husband or boyfriend means YOU are less valuable or less capable of changing the world for the better!  Don't put the love of men above the love of God, and don't let this holiday convince you that you are unloved or unwanted!!  Run your race and live the life God has given you, and don't give in to this weird cultural pressure to be sad about it.

“I am not single because I am too spiritually unstable to deserve a husband or too spiritually mature to need one. I am single because God is good and this is His best for me.” ~Paige Benton Brown

...Lindsey, Out!  ;-)